One thing I want to caution is against pushing for too much binary opposition. I know that's sort of part of the whole idea of a possession style file, but one of the things I dislike about some of your files is the insistence on coming up with a feminine name. To me, this boxes everything that comes afterwards as happening to a seperate person that isn't me, and even when that person is supposed to "take over", as I find myself thinking about the file later on it's pretty easy to resist because there's a very clear line of "this is the file, not you".
So when I say "Maybe channel some of those destructive emotions into stuff like your fembot destroying masculine clothes to punish you if you get too belligerent and resistive, and other sorts of masculinity self-sabotage.", I don't really mean set up a binary opposition about being puppetted into harming your stuff. It makes it seem like that stuff is my real identity, and I'm in a masochistic frame of reference. That's hot for a bit, but after we've finished I've essentially reinforced my false masculine identity.
Instead, perhaps try something like "When things around you stack up and prevent you from feeling happy about yourself and who you are, it can be really painful. If it gets bad, one thing that can be calming is taking actions to change your surroundings, and to remove the things that are hurting you. Seek out some things that symbolise what you don't like about yourself, and confront them. Make a ritual out of it, if you feel it will emotionally centre you.
*give some examples here, maybe about joyfully, slowly, deliberately scissor cutting all the way through boxers or other types of masculine clothing (I'd like to see some files that push things further and attack hoodies, making you replace them with cardigans, shirts with blouses, trousers with skirts, etc), maybe a bottle of aftershave ritually poured down the sink, but don't be too prescriptive, otherwise you risk not connecting with listeners for whom those examples don't work well*
And then focus the point that as a conclusion of the ritual you remember and make a note to pick up a better replacement next time you're out at the store, one that doesn't make you feel so dysphoric (I don't want to use the word transgender because it causes listeners to put up barriers, but I'm not sure how I feel about "dysphoric"), one that makes you feel so comfortable and how great it is that you're improving everything around you so you don't feel so stressed.
But don't make a big deal about the above ritual stuff, it shouldn't be the point of a file. That kind of thing is a fetishy one-off crime of passion that doesn't always leave lasting changes. Emphasise that this is an intervention, a tool that you're giving the listener, to help them out when they get confused and upset and start to try really hard to hold on to their misconception-identity. There's nothing wrong with the average man thinking about their future in a masculine way; there's nothing wrong with masculinity. It's just that it's not /true/ here, and it's a weird, false belief that's actively hurting you. It's sad to see you harm yourself.
Above all, make the file sustainable to listen to repeatedly. If the listener is going to take the words to heart and treasure them deeply and for a long period as they grow into themselves into the future, the words can't be spikey. They can't wound. They can't be humiliating. And they can't really be too violating in that erotic way that's half the reason we love possession files, because that makes them easy to reject.
And you shouldn't be able to reject a curse.
A curse is real, and it makes real, actualised changes manifest, for the betterment of everyone involved.
Possession by an anthropomorphised agent is cool, but possession by an idea or well-rounded concept is stickier and more memorable.
You're not tweaking my fembot to act against me. You're giving me (not even necessarily me as in the fembot, or me as in not-the fembot, but rather me, the singular whole person who integrates all of your words into my life) tools to stop the dysphoria and suffering I'm inflicting on myself with my negative, slightly deluded way of thinking. And since my fembot looks out for me, and keeps me from going astray, I'm sure those tool will be accessible to her implicitly as she guides me in the right direction.
Not that there's a choice. Curses are real medical instruments, and you'll say as much.