Yes, a product like that is phytoestrogenic. Yes, it's generally safer and possibly cheaper to do things the "right" way with doctors. No, phytoestrogens are not ineffective placebos. Anybody who says otherwise is ignorant. Some phytoestrogenic products are basically placebos because of the quantity and effectiveness of the active compounds, but others will definitely put tits on your chest. I'm not making any sort of recommendation to you, just stating facts.