Yeah, I've noticed that difference as well, different types of arousal I mean.
What I see as male arousal typically causes me to just want to cum, it's like an instinct or basic need that must be full filled as soon as possible.
Female arousal however seems to be more prolonged and kind of relaxed, where the emphasis is less on reaching an orgasm but more on feeling as good as possible.
The aftermath is also different. Even if I don't cum masturbating while being aroused in a feminine way, I feel much more fulfilled and satisfied. When I masturbate and cum while being aroused in a masculine way however, it just feels good for a moment and then nothing, just emptiness.
Anyway, I would be interested in such a trick as well. The different forms of arousal just sort of happen by themselves, but if there was an easy way to intentionally trigger feminine lust that'd be perfect.