So… I'm dating a transwoman.
Just kind of happened, anyway, normally I don't tell anyone about the kink I have, since, you know, wanting dominant women to dress you up and fuck you is hard to explain, I usually wait a while before telling girlfriends, if I tell them at all, since it's just a kink and I can live without it.
The issue is, I like this woman, she seems up for anything, but if I come out and explain that kink is being forced into something she nearly got murdered for as a teenager, corssdressing, I get the feeling it won't go down well. Nor might asking her to put on a strap on.
She's actually the first and only trans person I've ever met is another thing, so other than Googling stuff, my only perspective is based on what she's told me about her life and whatever comes up in conversation, so I don't want to come out and find out it's some kind of faux pas.
So, ladies, do I bring this up at all? If so, how? Should I just forgo sissification for a while?
Also, I've never actually looked into this, what proportion of the people on this forum are actually trans or into transitioning? I've always been definitely male with no dysphoria or anything, so I just came for the femdom stuff and ignored the transition and body changing threads.
Thanks babes :)
Unfortunately for you I'd say, in my experience, trans women probably aren't any more likely to be okay with that than any other women. For different reasons usually, but still.
Chances are if you bring it up to her, she'll really just not want to have anything to do with it. But then you've got the chance that it's something that'd nag at her a lot afterwards, so it might not be worth bringing up. I dunno. Depends on how much you like to be truthful but it will very likely not go well, even if it doesn't go badly.
To be honest, a good relationship is better than a kink anyway, despite what hormones might sometimes tell you. Maybe leave things be for a while and figure out what your priorities are. Tell her then if you still want to.
It's not "just a kink", it's part of who you are.
Just tell her you like dressing up but don't get into anything sexual.
You also happen to like being submissive, but this is a different conversation than the dressing up.
You should bring it up with her and see how she likes the idea of being dominant towards you (whether you are dressed up or not).